dull reminder that sexuality isn’t about sex; it’s about attraction

a gay man isn’t necessarily out fucking dudes all day every day

a bisexual woman isn’t necessarily bonking everyone she meets

an ace enby doesn’t necessarily dislike sex or lack a libido; they just don’t see other people that way

in fact it’s super common for aces to be polyamorous, because attraction is not a factor or a barrier—it’s simply not a consideration, making friendship and shared interests far more of a comprehensible path to the bed

it’s entirely possible to be ace and also a total slut

case in point: azurelore

imagine being an autistic weirdo who realizes they can just share with close friends an intense special interest in and expressive fascination for sex

just explore and embrace and openly muse and discuss and theorize and philosophize about this endlessly curious topic, like any other friend stuff

it’s not about—well, whatever it is that allo people feel; this mystical quality of sexual attraction that makes “normal” people behave absolutely insane to my eyes

it’s not about power dynamics or transactions or possession or any of that scary toxic mess

it’s just, “hey, this is neat! ya wanna?”

of course aces can also be sex-averse for any number of reasons, and that’s cool too and needs to be respected

but you know who else can be sex-averse for any reason and deserves respect? bi people. gays. lesbians. pansexuals. straights.

i also was very averse until i learned to love myself.