{"id":8310,"date":"2021-04-16T20:32:53","date_gmt":"2021-04-17T00:32:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/aderack.com\/journal\/?p=8310"},"modified":"2021-04-16T20:34:34","modified_gmt":"2021-04-17T00:34:34","slug":"determination-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/aderack.com\/journal\/2021\/04\/determination-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Determination"},"content":{"rendered":"
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I’ve said this not infrequently, but I am very happy to be trans. Like, given the option to be some cis take on who I am, whatever that could possibly mean, I would say no. I wouldn’t ever want that. What I would want is to have understood myself and received necessary care some 30 years ago. But that’s different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am exactly the person I want to be, aside from the damage from the neglect and other people’s problems, right. I don’t want some other body in order to fit someone else’s ideas of propriety. Self-determination is more important than fitting into a broken, wrong-headed world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I genuinely don’t understand cisness. For decades I played along with what other people told me about myself, because I didn’t know I had another option. But I didn’t like it. I did the bare minimum. I knew they were wrong. I just didn’t have the language to piece together how. I’ve never had a situation where people have known what’s right for me or acted in my best interest. Everything those with control over my life has told me has been wrong, often maliciously. I’m the only person who knows me. Why should I trust their judgment about my very being?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want to be who I am, not who someone tells me I am. I don’t want to change any part of me so that my idea of who I am matches the ideas of someone who doesn’t give a shit about me. Why would I do that? What purpose would that serve? The only problem with my body again is the years of neglect, that I’m doing my best to mitigate now. Otherwise, it’s a part of who I am. And I like it. What’s wrong with it? Why should I give up what I have just to make other people feel better with who I correctly say that I am?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I just don’t get this narrative one hears, of wishing one were born in another body<\/em> or whatever. It sounds like some kind of a confused cis fairy tale. Why the hell would i want that? What would it even mean, to a non-binary chick? What I want is love<\/em>. I want acceptance. I want respect. On my own terms. I’m not going to apologize for my existence. I’ve already done that since as young as i can remember speaking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I’m great. Being trans is a part of that. If I were to start over with a blank slate, the only thing I’d adjust is knowledge\u00e2\u20ac\u201dnot having to live in ignorance for all those years. To know that I deserve care<\/em>.<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I’ve said this not infrequently, but I am very happy to be trans. Like, given the option to be some cis take on who I am, whatever that could possibly mean, I would say no. I wouldn’t ever want that. 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